"Jeannie Vanasco has unintentionally built a reputation for an unusual degree of grace and forgiveness than your average human (me). Most notably, her second book, Things We Didn't Talk About When I Was a Girl, is one in which she investigates her rape and interviews her rapist. Over the course of the book, which she wrote in eight months (perhaps no coincidence that she moved through it quickly-can you imagine such an assignment?), she develops a working relationship with this man in search of understanding of what happened."
""I'm very anxious, and the silent treatment ratchets that way up," Vanasco said. "I didn't know what the rules were in the relationship. I wanted to make my mom happy, and I didn't know how I could always do that. If she was unhappy, I would feel deeply unhappy. A friend recently asked, 'Have you heard the term codependent?' I'm like, 'Yeah, yeah, I know. I know.'""
Jeannie Vanasco has become known for an unusual degree of grace and forgiveness while confronting painful personal histories. She investigated her rape and interviewed her rapist, and through that process developed a working relationship with him in search of understanding. A Silent Treatment focuses on her mother’s chronic silence while living in the basement apartment of the shared home, and probes Vanasco’s anger, resentment, and coping. She describes acute anxiety triggered by the silent treatment, confusion about relational rules, and codependent patterns. She sought support from a Google Mini, therapists, colleagues, and friends while the silence persisted nearby.
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