"- High Conflict is the kind of conflict that escalates to a point where it's conflict for conflict's sake. We start to make a lot of mistakes in this state. We usually get into an us versus them, all or nothing mindset, and the worst part about high conflict is that eventually, we harm the thing we went into the fight to protect, whether it's our family or our country."
"High conflict is like a spell, and we are all vulnerable to it. It is so magnetic, it's very hard to resist. If you've seen people in your life seemingly lose their mind to a political or social conflict, do things that you never thought they'd do, think about the conflict night and day, have the same conversations over and over, it's like they're under spell."
High conflict escalates into conflict for conflict's sake, fostering an us-versus-them, all-or-nothing mindset that magnifies mistakes. Arguments feed on themselves, eroding trust and damaging families, communities, and institutions. High conflict acts like a magnetic spell that people fall under, causing repetitive, obsessive thinking and repeated conversations. Vulnerabilities and psychological tripwires make individuals susceptible and drive both the desire to stay in the fight and to escape it. Breaking the cycle requires recognizing mutual needs, noticing moments where needs can be met, and shifting from winning arguments to solving underlying problems to protect what matters.
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