Not everyone who keeps the group chat alive is extroverted. Some of them learned that being the one who initiates is the only reliable way to confirm you're still wanted, because waiting to be reached out to produced too much silence to risk again - Silicon Canals

"Most people assume the friend who organises dinners, sends the memes, asks about the job interview, and posts the holiday photos in the chat is just an extrovert doing extrovert things. They have the energy. They like people. It's natural for them."

"For someone with a low-grade fear of being forgotten, that data is the whole point. The chat isn't being kept alive because they have surplus social energy. It's being kept alive because the alternative - the not-knowing - is unbearable."

"Psychologists working in attachment theory describe this as a form of reassurance-seeking common in people with anxious-preoccupied attachment. The defining feature isn't neediness in the cartoonish sense. It's a persistent uncertainty about whether the people you care about still care back."

The person who keeps group chats active often does so out of a need for reassurance rather than extroversion. Many assume that these individuals are naturally social, but research shows that most people fall somewhere between extroversion and introversion. Initiating contact is a strategy developed from past experiences, particularly for those with anxious-preoccupied attachment styles. This behavior stems from a fear of being forgotten, where sending messages provides necessary data about social connections and alleviates uncertainty.

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