An overwhelming 97 per cent emphasized the importance of sex in a romantic relationship, with 72 per cent insisting they would not pursue a relationship lacking sexual activity. 'Many participants expressed that a relationship without sex felt more like a friendship,' author Lauren Harris said. 'They were seeking romance and physical connection, viewing sexual intimacy as essential to their relationships.'
By that point in my 50s, I struggled to maintain an erection naturally but it never diminished her enthusiasm in bed, or mine. For me, orgasming is just one small part of sex; with the right person, just being naked together is pure joy. Growing up with a single mother in the 1950s, I did not learn much about sex at home and I lost my virginity at university to the girl I ended up marrying.
She says a 2020 study found that over 70% of the population has had a sex dream. "The sex dreams mainly happen during REM sleep, which is the phase where we dream the most, and the brain is almost as active as when we're awake. The dreams are often quite surprising, intense, and at times even taboo and purely inappropriate, and that's completely normal!"
It's embarrassing to say, but I might as well lead with the truth: I'm 76 and still horny as hell. I'm tall, with the kind of posture that used to turn heads but now just reminds me to stretch. My hair's gone white, my skin's mapped with wrinkles, and even with hearing aids, I miss half of what people say. But desiredesire's still loud.