I took my 5-year-old daughter to the neighborhood park today. Invited a friend and his girls, ages 6 and 2. Usually our kids play very well together. At the park we ran into a girl who we've played with before. Let's call her Denise. She's 10 and comes to the park by herself. We're not sure where she lives, but it must be within walking distance. But that's not my only problem with her.
My two cents is that I try to look as inward as I'm looking outward. When I'm anxious or scared, I try to cut back on the caffeine and other stuff. Understand that going straightedge and sober is a weapon and shield in the fight for reality. It's an assertion of independence and responsibility for the health of the community.