In the past, when we've done these analyses, we've seen couples express an interest in bondage play or sensory play. But this year, we're almost seeing a shift towards getting back to basics. I found it so interesting that regardless of gender, age or where you live, people want more oral sex.
Couples often interpret this recurrence as a sign of deeper incompatibility. They grapple with questions such as, "Are we missing something?" "Are we doing this wrong?" Or even, "Why can't we fix this?" Psychological research offers a different, strangely reassuring perspective: 69 percent of relationship conflicts are perpetual. This finding, emerging from decades of longitudinal data from studies by John Gottman, is one of the most replicated insights in relationship science. Despite its slightly grim-sounding premise, it contains a powerful truth.