My mother was the most horrible cook, unbelievably bad at it. Her umbrella crime was the lack of self-knowledge far from being bad, she thought she was brilliant but underneath that, a set of discrete misapprehensions, any one of which would have been enough to make you not want to eat at her house. She'd never take a recipe literally; each ingredient could be swapped with something else of a similar colour, or a similar size, or not similar at all.
He was 69, too young, but on the plus side he was doing what he most loved digging on an archaeological site. We weren't close in the way I was with Granny; he could be quite scary. But we got along fine and I liked him. Mum said I could help myself from his wardrobe. I had only known him dressed for retirement, in blue workers' overalls for archaeological digging, or baggy beige shorts for caravanning holidays.