Maybe 10 years ago, I bought permanent Advent calendars for the kids: Scandi-looking Christmas houses with 24 tiny drawers, from Sainsbury's. I think my original plan was that some of the draws could contain something other than chocolate, not because I'm the kind of almond mum who won't let anyone eat sweets before breakfast, but because their dad and I are separated and have them half the time each,
I think the key to a happy marriage during the holiday season is being able to acknowledge privately, together, all the quirks of each other's families with no judgment,