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Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
11 hours agoThere's a version of strength that only develops in people who had to figure out the rules of a place nobody explained to them. They don't talk about it because the people who had the rules handed to them wouldn't understand what was hard about it, and the people who also had to figure it out don't need the explanation. - Silicon Canals
Onsighting in climbing parallels navigating social systems, emphasizing perceptual capacity over resilience in understanding unwritten rules.
fromInside Higher Ed | Higher Education News, Events and Jobs
1 day agoDisabled Borrowers Sue Trump Admin. Over Denied Debt Relief
The Department of Education's failure to properly process discharge applications from vulnerable and sick borrowers is reprehensible. We are simply asking the Department to review their applications on the merits, as is their right.
NYC parents
#self-reliance
Mental health
fromSilicon Canals
19 hours agoPsychology says people who describe themselves as self-sufficient aren't always describing a strength. Sometimes they're describing the scar tissue that formed where the need for other people used to be, and they've carried it so long they genuinely mistake the numbness for peace. - Silicon Canals
Self-reliance is often mistaken for strength, but true strength includes the ability to seek help and share vulnerabilities.
Mental health
fromSilicon Canals
1 day agoI'm 66 and I recently understood that the reason I find it so hard to ask for help is not independence - it is the very specific and very old belief that needing something from another person is the first step toward becoming a burden, and a burden, in the house I grew up in, was the one thing nobody was allowed to be - Silicon Canals
Independence can often mask fear, leading to a reluctance to ask for help and a belief that needing assistance is a weakness.
Social justice
fromNonprofit Quarterly | Civic News. Empowering Nonprofits. Advancing Justice.
6 days agoWeakening the Equal Credit Opportunity Act Will Widen Inequality | Nonprofit Quarterly | Civic News. Empowering Nonprofits. Advancing Justice.
The CFPB's proposed changes to ECOA threaten to weaken protections against lending discrimination.
fromwww.dw.com
5 days agoScotland: Abusive man gets 8 years prison for wife's suicide
Lee Milne physically and psychologically abused Kimberly Bruce (Milne) and our evidence showed that this abuse was a significant contributing factor in her death. He deliberately and ruthlessly exploited Kimberly's vulnerabilities, which makes him culpable for her decision to end her own life.
UK news
Online Community Development
fromwww.housingwire.com
5 days agoCDFIs could draw institutional capital for climate projects
There is a strong desire for collaboration between institutional investors and community development financial institutions, but barriers exist due to perceived risks and lack of standardization.
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
1 day agoPsychology says people who grew up in the 1960s and 70s don't handle hardship better than everyone else because they are stronger - they handle it better because they were never offered the alternative, and a person who was never offered the alternative develops a relationship with difficulty that people who were offered it spend their whole lives trying to build in a gym - Silicon Canals
Struggling is a norm for my generation because we never knew life could be comfortable.
fromLGBTQ Nation
6 days agoClassmates subjected a young teen to "relentless" homophobic bullying. Then tragedy struck. - LGBTQ Nation
Leyton's mother stated, 'None of the boys in that school accepted him. They told him they would never accept him for the way he spoke. He was a sassy speaker, more feminine - not the 'hard boy' type. This wasn't going on for just a little while.'
LGBT
#retirement
Retirement
fromSilicon Canals
1 day agoResearch suggests the loneliness people feel after a long career ends isn't about missing the work - it's about discovering that most of their relationships were infrastructure, not friendship - Silicon Canals
Retirement often leads to unexpected loneliness due to the loss of social structures that support friendships.
Psychology
fromwww.theguardian.com
3 days agoAfter her remission from cancer, Christine's friends abandoned her just when she needed them most | Bianca Denny
Support often diminishes after cancer remission, leaving survivors like Christine feeling abandoned and struggling with their psychological wellbeing.
fromwww.bbc.com
4 days agoI got a 10,000 loan for my nursing degree. Now they say it's an error and I have to pay it back
David Robinson, who completed a one-year postgraduate diploma in adult nursing, was informed that his course was ineligible for maintenance loans, requiring repayment at an accelerated rate.
Higher education
Relationships
fromSilicon Canals
1 day agoPsychology says people who were the emotional anchor for their families rarely experience loneliness as a single event. They experience it as a slow accounting where they realize the support only ever flowed in one direction and nobody designed a return current. - Silicon Canals
Family support often flows in one direction, with one person bearing the emotional load while others remain uninvolved.
Mental health
fromSilicon Canals
5 days agoI grew up lower middle class and the thing nobody explains is how the financial anxiety doesn't leave when the money arrives. You can have six months of savings and still feel the phantom weight of an empty account because your nervous system was calibrated in a house where the math never quite worked and it stored that frequency permanently - Silicon Canals
Chronic stress from childhood financial instability affects adult behavior and emotional responses to money.
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Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
5 days agoResearch suggests people who grew up with very little and later accumulated real wealth don't feel wealthy - they feel temporarily safe, and there's a difference - Silicon Canals
Scarcity significantly reduces cognitive performance, impacting decision-making and mental bandwidth, regardless of actual intelligence.
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
5 days agoResearch suggests people who grew up with very little and later accumulated real wealth don't feel wealthy - they feel temporarily safe, and there's a difference - Silicon Canals
Scarcity significantly reduces cognitive performance, impacting decision-making and mental bandwidth, regardless of actual intelligence.
Education
fromNonprofit Quarterly | Civic News. Empowering Nonprofits. Advancing Justice.
2 weeks ago'The Cruelty Is Just the Point': A Broken Student Loan System Has Women at the Center | Nonprofit Quarterly | Civic News. Empowering Nonprofits. Advancing Justice.
Mary Modica faces $102,000 in student debt despite teaching for 12 years, struggling with rising payments and lack of loan forgiveness.
Mental health
fromNonprofit Quarterly | Civic News. Empowering Nonprofits. Advancing Justice.
5 days agoTrapped and Alone: Fear of ICE Is Deepening Postpartum Isolation for Immigrant Mothers | Nonprofit Quarterly | Civic News. Empowering Nonprofits. Advancing Justice.
Immigrant mothers face isolation and stress during childbirth due to fears of deportation and separation from family.
Relationships
fromSilicon Canals
5 days agoThe friend who always checks in on everyone but never tells anyone when they're struggling isn't hiding. They've simply never had the experience of someone noticing without being told, and after long enough, the idea of being spontaneously seen starts to feel like something that happens to other people. - Silicon Canals
Being the emotional caretaker in friendships can lead to neglecting one's own emotional needs and feelings.
Non-profit organizations
fromNonprofit Quarterly | Civic News. Empowering Nonprofits. Advancing Justice.
3 weeks agoDisability Inclusion Isn't "Special Needs"-It's Smart Philanthropy | Nonprofit Quarterly | Civic News. Empowering Nonprofits. Advancing Justice.
Cuts to special education oversight threaten funding and services for millions of children with disabilities, risking progress in disability inclusion.
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
6 days agoLongevity researchers say the single behavior most strongly linked to healthy aging isn't exercise, diet, or sleep - it's maintaining at least one relationship where you feel genuinely known rather than merely recognized - Silicon Canals
Warm relationships at age 47 predict better health at age 80 more than biological factors like cholesterol levels.
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
1 week agoThe hardest part of growing up lower middle class wasn't the lack of money. It was learning to want things quietly, because visible desire in a household running on tight margins felt like an accusation against the people who were already giving everything they had. - Silicon Canals
Emotional training around scarcity shapes behavior in lower middle class childhoods, teaching children to suppress desires to avoid adding stress to their families.
Fundraising
fromSilicon Canals
1 month agoI've been putting money into my daughter's savings account every month for 22 years without telling her - and the plan was always to give it to her when she needed it most, but the thing nobody warns you about secret generosity is that you start to need the secret more than she needs the money - Silicon Canals
A father's twenty-two-year secret savings account for his daughter evolved from genuine protection into a source of personal identity and validation, revealing how hidden acts of care can become about the giver rather than the recipient.
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
2 weeks agoThe most expensive thing about growing up poor isn't what you couldn't afford. It's the decision-making architecture it installs, where every choice runs through a scarcity filter that adds cost to options other people experience as free. - Silicon Canals
Financial scarcity significantly impacts cognitive performance, altering decision-making processes and creating a lasting influence on individuals' choices beyond material deprivation.
Mental health
fromSilicon Canals
3 weeks agoPeople who genuinely understand money but still feel broke aren't bad with finances. They grew up in a system where having enough was redefined every time they relaxed, so their brain permanently registers stability as the moment before loss. - Silicon Canals
Money anxiety stems from childhood experiences of financial instability where relief was followed by new crises, not from financial illiteracy or lack of knowledge.
UK news
fromwww.theguardian.com
1 month agoWater firms sent bailiffs to tens of thousands of homes for debts under 1,000
Tens of thousands of bailiff visits occur annually across English and Welsh water companies, with significant variation in enforcement practices and inconsistent protections for vulnerable customers.
fromLondon Business News | Londonlovesbusiness.com
1 month agoWhat are my rights as a borrower? - London Business News | Londonlovesbusiness.com
Taking out a loan can feel like stepping into unfamiliar territory. Questions pile up fast. How much can they charge me? What happens if I miss a payment? Can they call my workplace? Here's what most borrowers don't realize. Singapore's Moneylenders Act grants you significant legal protections. These aren't suggestions lenders can ignore. They're enforceable rules backed by the Ministry of Law. Every licensed money lender operating in Singapore follows them. No exceptions.
Law
from24/7 Wall St.
2 months agoShe Lost Her Spouse and Financial Plan; Now $60,000 Must Last Until Age 90
The fundamental challenge centers on balancing immediate income security against longevity risk. With life expectancy potentially extending 20 to 25 years, inflation will erode purchasing power significantly. A woman retiring today at 66 could live into her late 80s or beyond, meaning her portfolio must sustain withdrawals while maintaining growth. Social Security survivor benefits provide the foundation. A widow receives the higher of her own benefit or 100% of her deceased spouse's benefit. If she received $2,000 monthly but her husband received $3,200, she now gets $3,200. However, household expenses don't drop proportionally. Research shows a surviving spouse typically needs 75% to 80% of the couple's previous income.
Business
Fundraising
fromNonprofit Quarterly | Civic News. Empowering Nonprofits. Advancing Justice.
2 months agoGiving Bigger, Organizing More Boldly: Centering Disability Justice | Nonprofit Quarterly | Civic News. Empowering Nonprofits. Advancing Justice.
Centering Disability Justice reveals marginalized edges hold deep lessons and requires investing wealth and inheritance into movement infrastructure for collective liberation.
Women
fromwww.amny.com
1 month agoLooking to leave? Savvy Ladies has free financial advice for women going through divorce | amNewYork
Financial illiteracy and financial abuse trap women in abusive marriages; Savvy Ladies provides free financial education and support to empower women to leave unsafe situations.
Relationships
fromBusiness Insider
2 months agoI raised my grandchildren after my daughter and son-in-law died. Now 87, it wasn't how I expected retirement to be.
An 87-year-old raised her grandchildren after both parents died while still working, facing emotional strain and generational caregiving challenges.
fromwww.mercurynews.com
2 months agoDear Abby: I'm going broke paying for what my partner's grandchildren consume
DEAR PAYING: That Gabe earns more than you do should have been taken into consideration at the time you began living with him and his grandsons. Financial counseling might help you to determine what such an adjustment would mean in terms of dollars. The National Foundation for Credit Counseling is a reliable resource. Because these monthly financial disagreements could erode your relationship, please consider couples counseling in order to work out a plan that is fair for all parties concerned.
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