"He is naked underneath, and the robe is barely closed. I refuse to sit down at a table or engage with him looking like this. He says I'm weird and silly. I think he's a pig. We've never been anything but casual friends, and while he has a crush on me, the feeling has never been mutual. Is it just me, or do others think this attire is disrespectful and disgusting?"
"The idea that private dinner parties are always done cooperatively has now become so firmly ingrained in the American mind that it has taken on a whether-the-hosts-like-it-or-not urgency. And this goes double on holidays, when cooperative meals are so common that no one believes in an exception. That there are hosts who prefer to provide all the refreshments or are infuriated to have others messing in their kitchens is dismissed as insincere politeness."
A 73-year-old male housemate routinely wears a barely closed terrycloth robe and is naked beneath it, which can be perceived as disrespectful and disgusting by cohabitants. Personal disgust is subjective, and an offended housemate does not require external aesthetic validation to feel discomfort or set boundaries. Private dinner parties are widely assumed to be cooperative, especially during holidays, but some hosts prefer to supply all refreshments and resent others handling their kitchens. A host may refuse guest contributions on the basis that it is their home and they do not wish to share hosting duties.
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