Empathy Is Important, But This Is Even Moreso

"Autism is a condition that impacts many people and is rarely understood by those who don't take the time to understand it or who have the privilege that means it doesn't impact them. I work as a therapist and consultant and am often advocating for myself and others to make accommodations and adjustments to improve the quality of life for those living with neurological conditions (mainly ASD and ADHD)."

"Autism is an alienating condition, as it impacts the way we communicate, socially interact, and our social imagination. Many of the people I work with, myself included, are often expected to navigate and engage in systems and services that feel confusing, distressing, and scary to us. Schools can be hugely problematic and feel very unsafe to many children on the spectrum, as well as the legal system for many adults."

"When working within these systems and navigating the processes associated, I have come to learn that there are many neurodivergent allies in these spaces. Allies are the people who make things easier and try their best to meet our needs and respect our differences. Many people hold empathy as a valuable and significant quality. Whilst I believe empathy is important, I also believe it can be overstated and overemphasized. I believe compassion is much more important."

Autism impacts communication, social interaction, and social imagination, producing experiences of alienation and difficulty in everyday systems. Many autistic people encounter confusing, distressing, and unsafe experiences in schools and legal services. Neurodivergent allies reduce barriers by making accommodations, adjustments, and respecting differences. Empathy varies among autistic individuals and can be overstated; empathy does not necessarily indicate morality, integrity, or kindness. Prioritizing compassion and practical accommodations improves quality of life. Some autistic people may be hyper- empathic, which can affect assessment timelines and support needs. Advocacy is necessary to secure appropriate adjustments for those living with ASD and ADHD.

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