"As soon as I heard so-and-so's name, my survival brain put on its cape. I felt the tiny jaw clench, the microwave hummed like a lie detector, and ... poof ... I was no longer in my kitchen. I was in the courtroom of my mind delivering a closing argument; and, embarrassingly, also drafting a grocery list. (Eggs. Muffins. Righteous zinger for later.)"
"Momentology reframes that reflex. Instead of muscling your way into better behavior, you own the moment you're in-choosing how to meet it, instead of merely (and intensely) reacting to it. The practice is simple but not easy: (first you...) listen, (before you...) look, (before you...) leap. Listen to what's here, look at what's true, then leap with one resonant action that fits the moment (not your fear or ego). Done consistently, this shifts you out of autopilot and into resonance-connection, clarity, and unselfish impact."
"Your nervous system loves certainty. In hot moments, it'll trade real connection for the illusion of control. That's nexting's bargain: If I can just predict the next move, I'll feel safer. But the "safety" is thin-more like bubble wrap than armor."
Nexting is a survival-driven habit of future-minding and scenario-spinning that diverts attention from present interactions toward imagined threats or rewards. The nervous system prefers certainty and often sacrifices real connection for an illusion of control in charged moments. Sensory cues like tone, look, or phrase can trigger rapid bodily sensations—tight chest, heat, urgency—and propel the mind into rehearsed responses. Momentology prescribes a three-step practice: listen to what is present, look at what is true, then leap with one resonant action that fits the moment rather than fear or ego. Practiced consistently, the method reduces autopilot reactivity and fosters clearer, more connected, and less self-centered responses.
Read at Psychology Today
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