The Quiet Shame of Fearing Your Own Child
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The Quiet Shame of Fearing Your Own Child
"Ultimately, she couldn't bring herself to call the police for fear that they might shoot Hunter if he didn't comply with their orders. "I decided to risk him hurting me instead," she said. Hunter eventually wore himself out, but Leslie stayed inside the bathroom until her husband came home, just in case."
"As he lunged for her, she sprinted into the bathroom and locked the door. He tried to kick it down while she sat on the closed toilet lid and stared at her phone, debating whether to call 911. Leslie, who asked that she and her son go by pseudonyms, had reason to be afraid."
"By the time he was in middle school, he started going after Leslie, and she began getting calls from his teacher almost daily to pick him up after a meltdown. "His IQ is off the charts, but his executive functioning is so low," explained Leslie. "When he felt the pressure of demands being put on him, he would lose it.""
"She would have to physically drag him out of the school building as he kicked and screamed because, although he didn't want to stay there, he also didn't want to go with her. "I had to have people help me," she recalled. "It was so embarrassing and so hard.""
A mother in Park Slope faced escalating violence from her 15-year-old son, Hunter, who became enraged over ordinary requests. During a spring 2022 incident, she locked herself in the bathroom as he tried to kick the door down. She considered calling 911 but feared police might shoot him if he did not comply. The situation followed years of worsening behavior, beginning with meltdowns at school and increasing aggression toward her. Teachers frequently called for her to pick him up after violent episodes. She described his high intelligence alongside very low executive functioning, with demands triggering loss of control. She often needed outside help to manage school incidents and the embarrassment of repeated crises.
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