Relationships
fromPsychology Today
6 hours agoWhat's the Story You're Telling Yourself About Yourself?
Personal narratives shape our thoughts, feelings, and choices, often leading to unhealthy cycles that need recognition and reevaluation.
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Mental health
fromSilicon Canals
1 week agoThe epidemic isn't loneliness - it's the number of people who've been lonely so long they've stopped registering it as loneliness and started calling it personality - Silicon Canals
Loneliness can be misinterpreted as independence or preference, leading to a lack of recognition of the feeling itself.
Mental health
fromSilicon Canals
2 weeks agoThere's a version of loneliness that only arrives inside a crowded room full of people who like you, and it comes from the slow realization that what they like is a performance you can no longer remember choosing to start - Silicon Canals
Loneliness can persist even in social settings, stemming from a disconnect between one's true self and the persona they project.
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
1 week agoThe people who say they don't care what others think are almost never telling the whole truth. What they actually did was move the audience inward, and now they perform for a private version of the same judges they claim to have escaped. - Silicon Canals
Indifference to others' opinions often masks internalized judgment rather than true freedom from social conformity.
Photography
fromSilicon Canals
1 week agoPeople who always volunteer to take the group photo instead of being in it aren't being helpful - they've found the one socially acceptable way to remove themselves from the frame without anyone asking why, and that quiet self-removal is the most visible invisible thing a person can do in a room full of people who never notice who's missing from the picture until years later when someone asks "wait, where were you?" - Silicon Canals
People often hide behind cameras at events to avoid being in front of them, masking their insecurities.
#identity
fromSilicon Canals
2 weeks agoBootstrapping
The reason some men never move forward in life has nothing to do with motivation or discipline - it's that they built their entire identity around a version of themselves that stopped being true years ago, and starting over feels like admitting it was all wasted - Silicon Canals
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
1 month agoPsychology says the reason most people never truly change isn't laziness - it's that they've built an identity around their flaws that they don't know who they'd be without them - Silicon Canals
People struggle to change not due to laziness, but because their flaws are integrated into their identity, making change feel like a threat to the self.
Digital life
fromSilicon Canals
1 month agoThere's a specific kind of exhaustion that belongs to people who are fluent in three versions of themselves. One for work, one for family, one for the person they actually are at 11pm when everyone has finally stopped needing something. - Silicon Canals
Fluency across multiple identities is essential in modern life, but it comes with a hidden cost of constant translation.
Bootstrapping
fromSilicon Canals
2 weeks agoThe reason some men never move forward in life has nothing to do with motivation or discipline - it's that they built their entire identity around a version of themselves that stopped being true years ago, and starting over feels like admitting it was all wasted - Silicon Canals
Many individuals struggle to update their identities after past failures, clinging to outdated self-perceptions.
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
1 month agoPsychology says the reason most people never truly change isn't laziness - it's that they've built an identity around their flaws that they don't know who they'd be without them - Silicon Canals
People struggle to change not due to laziness, but because their flaws are integrated into their identity, making change feel like a threat to the self.
Digital life
fromSilicon Canals
1 month agoThere's a specific kind of exhaustion that belongs to people who are fluent in three versions of themselves. One for work, one for family, one for the person they actually are at 11pm when everyone has finally stopped needing something. - Silicon Canals
Fluency across multiple identities is essential in modern life, but it comes with a hidden cost of constant translation.
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
3 weeks agoThe version of you that exists in your best friend's memory and the version that exists in your own are so different that if they met, they might not recognize each other. And the distance between those two versions is usually the exact shape of whatever you refuse to believe about yourself. - Silicon Canals
Self-perception often conflicts with how others see us, revealing deeper issues of self-deception and internalized beliefs about who we are allowed to be.
Retirement
fromSilicon Canals
3 weeks agoPsychology says the grief that follows retirement isn't about losing your job - it's about the self that only existed inside the job, the one who was competent and needed and clearly defined, and that self doesn't retire when you do, it simply loses the only environment that was ever capable of calling it into existence - Silicon Canals
Retirement challenges identity, as losing a job often means losing a coherent sense of self.
Mental health
fromSilicon Canals
3 weeks agoSome people don't fear failure. They fear succeeding and then being expected to sustain it, because the version of them that achieved it was running on adrenaline and desperation, and the person who shows up on Monday is someone quieter who doesn't know how to replicate what the emergency produced. - Silicon Canals
The fear of success stems from the pressure to replicate high performance, not from a desire to avoid good outcomes.
Mindfulness
fromSilicon Canals
1 month agoNot everyone who cancels plans at the last minute is flaky. Some of them said yes from the version of themselves that felt capable that morning and then spent the entire day slowly losing access to that person. - Silicon Canals
A person who cancels plans may not be unreliable; they are often a different version of themselves than when they initially agreed.
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
1 month agoI'm 37 and I just realized that every major decision I've made in my adult life was designed to avoid disappointing people who stopped thinking about me the moment I left the room - and that's a lesson most people learn too late to rebuild - Silicon Canals
People often overestimate how much others notice and think about them, leading to unnecessary anxiety about others' judgments.
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
1 month agoI used to think I was bad at negotiating until I realized I wasn't negotiating at all. I was performing gratitude for being included, because somewhere early I learned that asking for more was the fastest way to lose what you already had. - Silicon Canals
Negotiation issues often stem from emotional barriers rather than tactical skills, rooted in early life experiences and a scarcity mindset.
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
1 month agoChildren who were praised for being helpful and easy often become adults who are remarkably kind and deeply lonely at the same time - because they learned that being low-maintenance was how you earned love, and now they can't ask for what they need without feeling like a burden - Silicon Canals
Conditional praise can lead to emotional costs and a sense of conditional love in children, impacting their adult relationships and self-perception.
Education
fromSilicon Canals
1 month agoI asked a group of people in their 70s what they'd un-learn if they could and every single one named something they were taught before age 10 - not a fact, not a skill, a belief about themselves that was installed by a specific person in a specific room, and the fact that it's still running 60 years later without their permission is the thing that made half the room go quiet - Silicon Canals
Beliefs installed in childhood by authority figures persist into adulthood, shaping decisions and self-perception for decades without conscious awareness or permission.
Relationships
fromSilicon Canals
2 months agoIf people naturally gravitate toward you in these 8 situations, you're more admired than you think - Silicon Canals
People often underestimate how much others value them; recurring requests for advice and genuine invitations indicate admiration, trust, and respect.
Psychology
fromEarth's Attractions - travel guides by locals, travel itineraries, travel tips, and more
2 months agoThey Use This Trick to Get You to Say Yes - Learn to Spot It (And Use It the Right Way)
Small initial requests increase chances of agreeing to larger related requests by leveraging commitment, self-perception, and cognitive dissonance; commonly used in advertising, sales, and relationships.
fromPsychology Today
5 months agoSeeing Through the Mask: Understanding Imposter Syndrome
Looking back on my own decades in life-student, waiter, pilot, FBI agent, graduate student, author, speaker-I can honestly say I've felt like an imposter at nearly every stage. From my first solo flight in a Cessna 152 at 17 to my first arrest of human traffickers in the Sonoran Desert, miles from any help, I often wondered, Do I belong here? Am I ready? Even as I rose through the ranks, I sometimes asked myself: Did I earn this, or am I fooling everyone?
Mental health
fromPsychology Today
5 months agoDon't Believe the Hype About Yourself, or the Haters
The wisdom here isn't about self-deprecation, but rather embracing what Davis et al. (2011) refer to as the "just right view of the self." When we clearly understand both our strengths and weaknesses, we gain a better understanding of the value we bring to our environment as well as where we need additional support. In theory, when we recognize this, neither flattery nor insult should have the power to distort our self-worth.
Philosophy
fromBig Think
9 months agoHow the illusion of self shapes your reality
The sense that we are a solid entity, an unchanging entity that exists someplace in our body and takes ownership of our body, and even ownership of our brain rather than being identical to our brain, that is where the illusion lies.
Philosophy
Social media marketing
fromPsychology Today
11 months agoConfronting Digital Beauty Myths
Social media beauty standards can harm self-perception and well-being.
Unrealistic ideals are internalized, affecting self-acceptance and self-esteem.
Challenging media influence on body image is essential for healthier perceptions.
Fashion & style
fromBusiness Matters
11 months agoWhy Hair Restoration Should Be on Every Business Leader's Wellness Radar
Hair loss can undermine confidence in professional settings, impacting how individuals are perceived and perform.
Restoring hair is increasingly seen as part of strategic wellbeing for professionals.
fromIndependent
1 year agoCatherine Prasifka: Forget the fad diets, protein popcorn and religious training regimens - your body is not a machine to be hacked
The latest season of Netflix's Black Mirror features an episode where users can optimise their lives through an app, impacting their self-perception profoundly.
Digital life
Mental health
fromPsychology Today
1 year agoThe ADHD Shame Cycle: Always Feeling Behind
ADHD shame loops start from small errors and escalate into debilitating negative thought cycles.
Feelings of inadequacy are fueled by constant comparisons to others, worsening ADHD symptoms.
A habit of believing one is always behind can be challenging to break.
Overcoming the shame loop fosters peace and trust in individual pace and process.
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