"My dad can come in a room and be mad about something, but it doesn't change the dynamic or energy of the room. We don't internalize his feels. His feelings don't set the mood for of the room."
"A parent being upset shouldn't change the entire energy of the house, to walk on eggshells and tiptoe around their emotions. That is so unhealthy. If somebody's upset and immediately everyone else is uncomfortable, that's an unsafe place to be."
"It's a huge green flag. It was a huge blessing to grow up with a parents whose emotions don't regulate the emotions of the entire house."
Three adult siblings maintain emotional boundaries so a parent's mood does not control household energy. When the father becomes upset, the siblings do not internalize his feelings or let his mood change the room's dynamic. The siblings address issues directly and then move on rather than walking on eggshells. The stance rejects tiptoeing around parental emotions as unhealthy and unsafe when everyone else immediately becomes uncomfortable. The father is described as a steady, safe presence whose emotions do not regulate the entire household. Several commenters recognized similar unhealthy patterns in their own families and expressed disbelief or relief.
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