"The parents I work with love their children deeply. They devote themselves to making sure their kids feel happy and safe. But sometimes, unresolved shame or trauma interferes with knowing what our children need most. Sometimes, we inadvertently pass our own fears or shame onto our kids, and they end up carrying them as if they were their own. Something I focus on in my therapy practice is helping"
"Most of us enter parenting with childhood wounds, parts of ourselves that weren't accepted-maybe we were told we were too sensitive, too loud, or too stubborn. Perhaps we had to perform, achieve, or conceal certain aspects of ourselves just to be accepted. This is where we carry shame, and it often seeps into the parent-child relationship. Children instinctively sense what makes their parents happy or upset,"
Parents often love their children and strive to make them feel happy and safe. Unresolved shame or past trauma can interfere with recognizing children's actual needs. Parents sometimes project fears and shame onto their children, causing children to carry burdens that are not theirs. Many parents bring childhood wounds and learned behaviors that prioritized performance or concealment to secure acceptance. Shame drives a false self that hides perceived unacceptable parts. Projection functions as offloading discomfort onto nearby people. Neurodivergent children can reveal parental struggles with vulnerability and perfectionism. When parents heal their wounds, children gain freedom to be themselves.
Read at Psychology Today
Unable to calculate read time
Collection
[
|
...
]