Mental health
fromPsychology Today
3 months agoLearning How to Live With Shame
Perfectionism is often driven by the fear of shame, leading to compulsive behaviors.
To be sure, addicts typically suffer impaired control. But substance misuse doesn't involve tropisms and reflexes. The addict believes, and believes correctly, that there are ways, often requiring help and support, to regain and leverage the power of self-control, and to act and be different in the future than they are now.
"I can't forgive him. I've tried for years, but I just can't," said Craig, referring to his father, who neglected him throughout his childhood. "I know it's because I'm a bad person. Good people forgive, and bad people don't."