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When Winning Is Wounding: The Overachiever's Trap

Overachievement often serves as a trauma-based strategy for validation.

Perfectionism Has No End to It

Perfectionists struggle with self-worth and often avoid painful feelings by pushing people away.

Perfectionism in Narcissistic Personality Disorder

Narcissists engage in black-and-white thinking, leading to a fragile ego that uses perfectionism as a defense against shame.

The Role of Perfectionism in Autism Spectrum Disorder

Perfectionism in autism serves as a coping mechanism for self-esteem and interpersonal distress, leading to further relationship challenges.

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Wellness

For Perfectionists, Therapy Isn't Always About Becoming Better

Mental health

Overthinking Isn't as Helpful as You Think

The Perfect Patient

Perfectionism obscures true emotional needs, complicating client growth in therapy.

Wellness

For Perfectionists, Therapy Isn't Always About Becoming Better

Mental health

Overthinking Isn't as Helpful as You Think

The Perfect Patient

Perfectionism obscures true emotional needs, complicating client growth in therapy.

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Indecision, the Torment of What to Choose

"I realized that agonizing over a choice is often worse than picking something and living with the consequences. Embrace the decisions and stop overthinking!"

Parenting

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Relationships

Perfectly Alone: How Perfectionism Undermines Connection

Relationships

Dealing With Perfectionism in Couples Therapy

Relationships

Challenging the Perfectionist's Beliefs About Being Loved

Relationships

The Myth of the Flawless Partner

The Anxiety of Asking for Help

Perfectionists fear acknowledging needs, seeing help as a vulnerability.

Expectations in relationships can lead to conflict and misunderstanding.

Most perfectionist anxieties around help are unfounded and challengeable.

Being in Love With a Perfectionist

Perfectionists may accidentally sabotage their relationships by pursuing unrealistic standards in a quest for love and approval.

Relationships

Perfectly Alone: How Perfectionism Undermines Connection

Relationships

Dealing With Perfectionism in Couples Therapy

Relationships

Challenging the Perfectionist's Beliefs About Being Loved

The Myth of the Flawless Partner

The perfect partner is the one most suitable for you, not necessarily flawless.

Incompatible partners can lead to a feeling of disconnection despite perceived perfection.

Seeking a perfect partner often results in loneliness, as they lack excitement and depth.

Acknowledging both positive and negative traits is crucial for lasting love.

The Anxiety of Asking for Help

Perfectionists fear acknowledging needs, seeing help as a vulnerability.

Expectations in relationships can lead to conflict and misunderstanding.

Most perfectionist anxieties around help are unfounded and challengeable.

Being in Love With a Perfectionist

Perfectionists may accidentally sabotage their relationships by pursuing unrealistic standards in a quest for love and approval.

Instead of Trying to Be Perfect, Choose to Be Authentic

Pursuing authenticity is more meaningful than seeking perfection.

Perfectionism creates insecurity and can lead to avoidance of criticism.

Perfectionism Won't Cure Your Fear of Uncertainty

Perfectionism acts as a shield against existential fears but can lead to increased distress.

Embracing the ordinary rather than seeking perfection can mitigate existential anxiety.

Instead of Trying to Be Perfect, Choose to Be Authentic

Pursuing authenticity is more meaningful than seeking perfection.

Perfectionism creates insecurity and can lead to avoidance of criticism.

Perfectionism Won't Cure Your Fear of Uncertainty

Perfectionism acts as a shield against existential fears but can lead to increased distress.

Embracing the ordinary rather than seeking perfection can mitigate existential anxiety.

Perfectionism and Obsessive Compulsive Disorder

Perfectionists seek external validation to prove their self-worth, often leading to cycles of obsessive thoughts and behaviors.

Addressing the Need for Certainty in OCD

OCD involves extreme self-doubt and a futile pursuit to eliminate it through effort.

Perfectionism and Obsessive Compulsive Disorder

Perfectionists seek external validation to prove their self-worth, often leading to cycles of obsessive thoughts and behaviors.

Addressing the Need for Certainty in OCD

OCD involves extreme self-doubt and a futile pursuit to eliminate it through effort.

The 'Hero Child' and the Achievement Obsessed Adult

Family roles serve both functional and dysfunctional purposes in families, influencing self-worth and behavior.

The 'hero child' role can lead to perfectionism and a constant need for external validation.

The Critical Thinking Traps in Perfectionism

Perfectionists often unfairly place the burden of proof onto others to prove that they're worthy.

Why We're So Judgmental

Perfectionism and judgmental attitudes contribute to chronic anxiety.

Judgments mask deeper emotional needs, leading to isolation and loneliness.

How Talented Students Fared During and After the Pandemic

Gifted students showed resilience during the pandemic but need peer interaction for full potential.

Honors students face higher risks of maladaptive perfectionism and related mental health issues.

fromwww.theguardian.com

Tom Daley looks back: My management said if I came out, I'd lose sponsorship'

Tom Daley's journey highlights his early perfectionism and competitive spirit, leading him to become a celebrated diver and Olympic champion.

#anxiety

Parenting

Anxiety and Self-Criticism: A Deadly Combination

Psychology

How Defensive Pessimism Complicates Managing Anxiety

Anxiety distorts perceptions, reinforcing negative beliefs and interpretations.

Stubbornness in beliefs complicates understanding of mental illness.

Anxiety can lead to a heightened sense of danger and skew perceptions.

Anxiety and Self-Criticism: A Deadly Combination

Recognizing anxiety and self-criticism as intertwined issues is crucial for effective coping.

Psychology

How Defensive Pessimism Complicates Managing Anxiety

Anxiety distorts perceptions, reinforcing negative beliefs and interpretations.

Stubbornness in beliefs complicates understanding of mental illness.

Anxiety can lead to a heightened sense of danger and skew perceptions.

Impostor Syndrome and the Fear of Being Seen

Impostor syndrome leads individuals to doubt their accomplishments despite evidence, stemming from early experiences and societal pressures.

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Therapists Say This Is The One Thing That Harms Eldest Daughters' Happiness The Most, And As An Eldest Daughter, I Can Confirm

They may feel responsible for younger siblings and even their parents, she added. They may also feel like they need to carry 'the mental load,' or the invisible tasks required to keep a family afloat.

Parenting

Why Can't I Just Be Happy?

The individual in this state is confused and, even worse, terrified. Whereas joy once felt within reach, anhedonia diminishes one's sense of agency.

Mindfulness

Perfectionism in Avoidant Personality Disorder

Avoidant personality disorder involves extreme social anxiety and perfectionism as a coping mechanism.

Understanding perfectionism's emotional roots can alleviate avoidant tendencies.

Perfectionism's Role in Intermittent Explosive Disorder

Perfectionistic standards for others may contribute to emotional outbursts, as unmet expectations foster feelings of being unwanted or disrespected.

Mental health

fromApartment Therapy

Cleaning Lessons I Learned from the 1964 "Mary Poppins" Movie That I'll Use Forever

"Good enough is as good as appeased." I love this phrase because it helps me let go of perfectionism. In my case, perfectionism not only makes a job take longer, but it also keeps me from starting it in the first place...Mary Poppins reminded me that good enough is, well, good enough.

Parenting

The Cult of Achievement

Tying self-worth to productivity leads to anxiety and depression.

Society conveys that value is linked to one's utility or achievements.

Non-judgmental practice can help escape perfectionism.

When the Pursuit of Success Becomes Self-Defeating

Self-defeating behaviors can lead to life-long patterns of dissatisfaction.

Perfectionism often transforms into obsessive tendencies that negatively affect well-being and relationships.

Assessing the long-term effects of sacrifice is essential for psychological health.

Childhood Patterns That Fuel Enmeshment and Perfectionism

Children often believe they are responsible for neglect or abuse due to their understanding of cause and effect.

Moral perfectionism can be a defense mechanism, leading children to think that being good equals control and happiness.

fromwww.theguardian.com

The Next Day by Melinda French Gates review Melinda on life, before and after Bill

Melinda reflects on her battle with perfectionism, stating that her drive for self-improvement may have caused her to miss opportunities for spontaneity in life.

Women in technology

Three Reasons People With Perfectionism Are Frequently Late

Perfectionism can result in chronic lateness due to a strong aversion to perceived wasted time.

Liberated Motherhood

Perfectionism contributes to perinatal mood disorders.

Acceptance of motherhood's difficulties reduces self-judgment.

Letting go of idealized motherhood standards alleviates guilt.

fromApartment Therapy

I Just Discovered the "Done Not Perfect" Organizing Philosophy, and It's Been a Game-Changer

"When I first started out as a professional organizer my mentor explained that perfect is the enemy of done. Sorting, creating categories, and deciding where items should live based on frequency of use all take time."

Everyday cooking

fromBig Think

Atsuko Okatsuka: Comedy, Chaos, and Finding a Place to Belong

"I think I'm kind of finding that I'm more of a perfectionist than I thought. I used to be like, 'Oh, I'm so chill,' you know? And I am. But for me, it's always about knowing that there's always improvement."

Mental health

Adult ADHD and Perfectionism

Perfectionistic thoughts are prevalent among adults with ADHD, often connected to avoidance behaviors.

Writing

The Truth About Writer's Block

Perfectionism can be alleviated by writing rapidly then editing carefully.

Writing groups help combat procrastination.

Limiting distractions enhances writing focus.

Breaking Through Perfectionism: A Journey Toward Progress

Perfectionism hinders progress by fixating on getting things 'just right'.

Taking baby steps is crucial to combating perfectionism.

Embracing imperfection fosters authenticity and growth.

Comparison to others can mask the struggle behind their success.

Learning How to Live With Shame

Perfectionism is often driven by the fear of shame, leading to compulsive behaviors.

The Foolish Quest for Ideal Love in Maladaptive Daydreaming

Ideal love is a misguided belief linked to past suffering

People often believe a perfect partner will rescue them

Valuing imperfect love is part of self-salvation

fromFast Company

These are all the ways that leaders can benefit from self-compassion

Self-compassion is essential for high achievers to mitigate feelings of inadequacy and harsh self-judgment.

fromBig Think