"My husband of more than 20 years gives me slipper socks with grippy soles. I hate them! We live in a hot climate, so I have little use for them. They filled up my sock drawer and retraumatized me every time I touched them. I threw them away and they came back. He gave me five more pairs at Christmas. They can't be worn with shoes or out in public."
"They are synthetic so I cannot even use them to polish the furniture. I kept them for animal first aid. I cannot be cool about these socks. They remind me of the horrible time I had in the hospital having emergency surgery. My husband couldn't even manage to hug me or talk with me before my surgery. I'm trying very hard to be graceful and grateful for any gift from my husband, but I want to throw these at him."
"I'll admit, I can't make heads or feet of these gifts. Why do these socks have such a grip on your husband? Sometimes loved ones fall into familiar gift patterns because they're easy or make shopping less stressful. Like the uncle or cousin who always gives elephant figurines because a loved one once said, I like elephants. Thing is: You've said you absolutely do not like grippy socks and don't have a use for them."
A woman repeatedly receives synthetic grippy slipper socks from her husband despite living in a hot climate and disliking them. The socks accumulate in her drawer, retraumatize her by reminding her of emergency surgery, and her husband rescues discarded pairs from the trash. She has attempted to refuse them, kept some for animal first aid, and sometimes cuts them to prevent retrieval. The husband appears to follow a familiar gift pattern and is not listening. A direct conversation should name the socks as reminders of a bad time, express appreciation for his intent, and set clear boundaries about future gifts.
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