"There really is something about working from home that can easily lead people to go, well, feral. Chalk it up to constantly existing in one space, the fact that we aren't leaving home or speaking face-to-face with others, or the way that deadline expectations can push us to roll out of bed and go right to the laptop. Between your husband's general scent and the fact that he puts more care into hygiene before heading out"
"for a hook-up, which issue is more important to you? My guess is that the distinct difference in the care he shows for how he smells to outside sexual partners compared to how he smells around you is the bigger problem. If I'm right, lead with your emotions. Underneath your reaction of being less aroused, what are you feeling? Use "I statements" in good faith, which means focusing on your feelings that are a result of the situation"
Working from home can erode routine hygiene, producing bad breath from infrequent teeth brushing and vaping, and less frequent showers. One partner showing greater grooming for outside encounters but neglecting hygiene at home creates a noticeable discrepancy that lowers attraction and hurts intimacy. Prioritize the greater issue: unequal care for shared intimacy. Begin conversations by naming personal feelings rather than blaming, using clear "I" statements about emotional impact. Offer concrete requests and mutual solutions (regular brushing, shower routines, breath-freshening habits), frame changes as care for the relationship, and reinforce positive efforts.
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