"Have you ever thought about the fact that no one else can look in the mirror for you? Do you believe it? If it's true, why is it so? I mean, why is it the case that no one else can look in the mirror for you? And is it always the case? Well, as it turns out, yes! It is always the case. There is no situation ever where you can use someone else's looking for your own."
"People stand in front of mirrors for a reason. Perhaps you're going on a first date or maybe you're getting ready for a job interview. Whatever the reason you're looking, the view you see is yours alone. No one else sees what you see when you look in the mirror, and, crucially, no one else knows what you want to see."
"Backseat drivers are irritating for a very good reason. In fact, it's the same reason that other people can't look in the mirror for you. When you're in the driver's seat, it's your preferences that matter. How far should you be behind the car in front, when should you indicate that you want to change direction, and so on? A gazillion decisions are made when someone drives from one place to another, and their choices will be those that keep their world as they like."
An entertainer resisted pressure to change appearance and insisted on choosing her wardrobe and how she wanted to look. No one else can look in a mirror for another person; it applies universally. Each person alone sees their reflection and alone knows what they want to see. Everyday situations like preparing for a date or interview illustrate that mirror-view is personal and private. The backseat-driver analogy shows that when someone controls their situation, their preferences guide countless decisions. Perspective governs choices and shapes how individuals keep their world aligned with their own likes.
Read at Psychology Today
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