For many people, Alcoholics Anonymous (AA) is synonymous with sobriety from substances. The 12-step model has helped millions around the world, and I have deep respect for the freedom it has given so many-including friends, clients, and people I love. But 12-steps isn't the only way. And it wasn't my way. I didn't get sober through AA. My path looked different,
I visited the hospital regularly, bringing cookies and offering support to his girlfriend, who is also in the program. During my last visit, I unknowingly arrived at the exact moment doctors began withdrawing life support. I had no idea it was going to happen and witnessed the kind of raw grief that comes in moments like that. Afterward, I hugged his girlfriend and quietly left.