#attachment-trauma

#attachment-trauma

Early childhood neglect is one of the most insidious forms of child abuse. Early neglect can be defined as any pattern of behavior from a primary caregiver that dismisses or overlooks the basic needs of a child, including their emotional needs ( attention, love, protection, encouragement, validation, mirroring) and or their physical needs, including food, shelter, clothing, supervision, boundaries, and medical and dental care. The long-term consequences of having experienced childhood neglect are well-documented in academic research, including the negative effect on self-esteem and self-worth.

It feels like we are living in a time where the primary relationship skill people learn is how to protect themselves. We are trained to look for red flags, to not be "too trusting," to stay guarded, in control. And sure, some of that is necessary. But we do not realize that we have become very good at protecting ourselves...and very bad at connecting with each other.