When I encounter unsolicited comments about my family size, I respond with something humorous or corny to diffuse any judgment. For instance, I might say, "Hands full, heart full!" while engaging with my kids.
"I can hold convos... Instead, what I got was nail salon workers joking around in their own language about who wants to touch the disgusting white people's hands."
The hardest thing throughout the process was the judgment we received. It was amplified during his early college struggles. While some people understood he needed to follow his own path, others were less supportive.