Asking Eric: I just found out about my wife's secret $16,000 expense
Clarify whether the funds are under one spouse's sole financial control, then address secrecy and family-obligation dynamics through conversation and therapy.
Asking Eric: Strike 1 was my husband's hike with his co-worker
Temporary separation can protect finances and enable healing while partners pursue individual and couples therapy, with trust rebuilt through intention, amends, and demonstrable change.