"Cohabitation has a way of bringing any underlying difficulties about compromise to the surface-and the two of you are significantly struggling to navigate conflict here. Both of you are being pretty unkind to each other with your words. Your partner is seemingly refusing to work with you to find a solution. And it also sounds like you're waking her up in the middle of the night to change the sheets, which interrupts her sleep."
"My feeling is that it's a bodily fluid-it's the same as if she peed or bled on the sheets! It's just gross, and her refusal to do anything to prevent it-such as wearing panties with a liner to bed, or getting up and going to the bathroom to wipe if she starts to feel aroused-is disrespectful, selfish, and borderline abusive."
Two partners who recently began living together are experiencing conflict over nocturnal vaginal discharge that soils shared bedding. One partner finds the leaks disgusting and responds by immediately changing sheets and showering. The other partner has sensory issues, prefers sleeping naked, and sometimes experiences arousal-related discharge without waking. Each partner interprets the other's reactions as disrespect or rejection, and both use hurtful language. Nighttime sheet changes wake the other partner and escalate tensions. The situation highlights a need for negotiated boundaries, empathy, and practical accommodations to protect sleep and intimacy.
Read at Slate Magazine
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