I've been financially responsible my entire adult life, and while I don't want to see debt as a dealbreaker, and I wouldn't break up with him over it, a part of me wants nothing to do with his debt. Also, I worry about what this says about his financial habits.
My wonderful boyfriend and I have been dating for nearly three years. This summer, we moved in together. This has brought us closer, and our relationship has flourished. We have discussed marriage, and I hope that it will be only a matter of time before we take that step. I grew up Catholic, while my boyfriend was "saved" (his words) during high school. My boyfriend's relationship with God is something I admire, but his recent soul searching is somewhat troubling.
I don't care either way about the order we do things, but in this economy, rejecting a 20% down payment just to prove a point seems irresponsible. substantial down payment they'd always promised to help me buy my first house with. I am not surprised because they have always been clear on their beliefs. we take the next step and move in together. My parents, who are old-fashioned and religious, don't think couples should live together before marriage.
I've been single for a long time, and while I'd like to share my life with someone, the idea of sharing my space with anyone other than my cat makes me a little antsy. It's not that I don't want a partner - that's different. But the thought of truly merging lives and being part of each other's day-to-day, all day, forever? That feels a little claustrophobic.
The Guardian's Saturday magazine is looking for throuples to talk honestly about the experience of love and commitment. We're particularly interested in talking to throuples living together under one roof, as well as throuples who are raising children as a unit of three parents. Is it easier to manage childcare duties when there are more adults in the room? Or more difficult? It is important that all parties agree to being featured.
You've been together for a while now, and it feels right. Really right. The sleepovers have become more frequent, you've got a drawer at their place, and you find yourself daydreaming about Sunday mornings together without the rush to get home. The question keeps surfacing in those quiet moments: Should we move in together? It's exciting, isn't it? But also terrifying. Because while your heart might be saying "absolutely," there's this little voice wondering if you're truly ready for this next step.