The article reflects on the author's journey through marriage and personal struggles with boundaries. Originally resistant to marriage, she agreed to it to keep peace but later faced the harsh reality of her decision. After a divorce, therapy revealed how her inability to establish boundaries negatively impacted her life, leading to lost opportunities and emotional well-being. By learning to say no and prioritize herself, she began reclaiming her happiness and pursuing her dreams, particularly the aspiration to write a book.
But what felt like winning - whether it was friends, promotions or love - had actually been losing what mattered most. I'd lost time to pursue my dream of writing a book, friendships that kept me afloat, and ultimately, myself because I never learned to set a boundary to keep people from taking too much of me.
After my divorce, I started therapy. That's where I'd learned just how much my lack of boundaries had been sending me running in circles my whole life. Ignoring my own needs had become second nature.
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