Media industry
fromNatesilver
35 minutes agoSocial media is turning into a freak show
Social media's influence on content quality and publisher success has led to a crisis in foreign policy and political communication.
#appearance-manipulation
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#self-worth
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
8 hours agoNobody teaches children how to know their own worth - we teach them to perform, to achieve, and to behave, and then wonder why so many adults reach fifty still measuring themselves against someone else's ruler - Silicon Canals
Self-worth is inherent and not based on achievements or external validation.
fromwww.businessinsider.com
2 days agoC-suite execs are paying surgeons big money to look fresh-faced, approachable, and less irritable
C-suite clients are getting treatments to age themselves down, with a focus on looking energetic, young, and full of vitality. Plastic surgeons report a significant increase in demand for facial procedures among executives.
Healthcare
Mindfulness
fromSilicon Canals
13 hours agoPsychology says people who constantly research self-improvement but never start aren't lazy - they've confused the feeling of learning with the feeling of changing - Silicon Canals
Learning about self-improvement can create a false sense of progress without actual change in behavior.
#body-image
fromSilicon Canals
1 day agoMental health
There is a particular loneliness in being a man whose body never matched the archetype he was taught to aspire to. Not because anyone was cruel about it, but because the world built its furniture, its expectations, and its respect around a size he would never reach. - Silicon Canals
Mental health
fromSilicon Canals
1 day agoThere is a particular loneliness in being a man whose body never matched the archetype he was taught to aspire to. Not because anyone was cruel about it, but because the world built its furniture, its expectations, and its respect around a size he would never reach. - Silicon Canals
Body image issues in men stem from societal expectations and architectural norms, leading to a profound, often unacknowledged loneliness.
Growth hacking
fromSilicon Canals
3 days agoThe people who look most successful on the outside often have no idea what they're doing - they just learned early that confidence and competence look identical from a distance - Silicon Canals
The gap between perceived success and actual competence is significant, often leading to overconfidence in those with limited knowledge.
#identity
fromSilicon Canals
1 day agoPsychology
Psychology says people who feel like they've been living someone else's life aren't confused or ungrateful - they're often the ones who were so good at adapting in childhood that they never stopped adapting long enough to find out who they actually were - Silicon Canals
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
3 days agoThere's a specific kind of exhaustion that comes not from doing too much but from performing a version of yourself all day that doesn't actually exist. The tiredness isn't physical. It's the distance between who people think you are and who you become the moment the door closes. - Silicon Canals
Performance in social settings creates psychological fatigue due to the gap between projected identity and true self.
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
1 week agoPsychology says the reason most people never truly change isn't laziness - it's that they've built an identity around their flaws that they don't know who they'd be without them - Silicon Canals
People struggle to change not due to laziness, but because their flaws are integrated into their identity, making change feel like a threat to the self.
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
1 day agoPsychology says people who feel like they've been living someone else's life aren't confused or ungrateful - they're often the ones who were so good at adapting in childhood that they never stopped adapting long enough to find out who they actually were - Silicon Canals
Adapting to others' needs in childhood can lead to feeling disconnected and lost in adulthood.
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
3 days agoThere's a specific kind of exhaustion that comes not from doing too much but from performing a version of yourself all day that doesn't actually exist. The tiredness isn't physical. It's the distance between who people think you are and who you become the moment the door closes. - Silicon Canals
Performance in social settings creates psychological fatigue due to the gap between projected identity and true self.
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
1 week agoPsychology says the reason most people never truly change isn't laziness - it's that they've built an identity around their flaws that they don't know who they'd be without them - Silicon Canals
People struggle to change not due to laziness, but because their flaws are integrated into their identity, making change feel like a threat to the self.
fromIndependent
5 days agoEveryone's talking about: Barbie Botox - but will it give me a doll-like neck?
Barbie Botox, also referred to as Traptox, has become a sensation on social media platforms, particularly TikTok, where it has garnered millions of views over the last three years.
Social media marketing
fromThe Atlantic
1 day agoHow Some People Became So Averse to Hype
Anna Holmes defines 'hype aversion' as a reflex against being told what to like, suggesting that popularity can create pressure rather than signal quality. This feeling can lead to a deliberate choice to resist mainstream culture.
Media industry
Mental health
fromSilicon Canals
1 day agoThere's a specific kind of tiredness that has nothing to do with sleep. It comes from years of translating yourself into a version that other people could handle, and the exhaustion lives in the gap between who you are and who you've been performing so consistently that even you forgot there was a difference. - Silicon Canals
Workplace burnout often stems from the exhaustion of pretending to be someone you're not, rather than from overwork itself.
Mindfulness
fromSilicon Canals
2 days agoThe older I get the more I notice that my body remembers arguments my mind has forgiven. A tone of voice, a specific pause before someone speaks, a door closing at a certain speed. Forgiveness turned out to be a cognitive event that the nervous system never agreed to. - Silicon Canals
Forgiveness involves both conscious decisions and unconscious bodily responses, highlighting the complexity of emotional healing beyond mere intention.
fromwww.theguardian.com
4 days agoWomen behind the lens: I grew up hating my natural hair. But I transformed that pain into something empowering'
I create sculptural hairstyles using my natural hair as a material. I add some extensions, and shape it with thread and wire. A sculpture can take me from 30 minutes to more than six hours.
Writing
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
6 hours agoPsychology says the most emotionally strong people aren't the ones who never fall apart - they're the ones who fall apart privately, reassemble without fanfare, and never use their recovery as a reason for anyone else to feel guilty - Silicon Canals
Emotional strength involves acknowledging feelings and recovering privately, not denying vulnerability or pretending to be unbreakable.
Mental health
fromSilicon Canals
2 days agoYou know a woman has lost her joy in life when she describes her days accurately and without feeling - when the words are all correct and the tone is completely flat and the account of her own life sounds like something being reported rather than lived, and she doesn't notice the flatness because she has been inside it long enough that it just sounds like how things are - Silicon Canals
Emotional flatness can creep in, making life feel like a series of tasks rather than meaningful experiences.
Film
fromwww.theguardian.com
3 weeks agoHollywood's idea of beauty once meant polished and slim, not altered and gaunt. This new look is unsettling | Brigid Delaney
Hollywood's beauty standard has shifted from aspirational optimization to concerning extremes, generating public alienation rather than admiration toward dramatically altered celebrities.
#mental-health
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
4 days agoThere's a specific exhaustion that belongs to people who spent decades being exactly what everyone needed them to be - and then one day realized they couldn't remember what they needed - Silicon Canals
People-pleasing leads to losing one's identity and can result in profound exhaustion and disconnection from self.
fromSilicon Canals
4 weeks agoIf a woman who always wore makeup suddenly stops - not on a bad day, not when she's ill, but permanently - most people assume she's let herself go. What's actually happening is almost always one of these 7 shifts, and the last one is the one her family should pay attention to. - Silicon Canals
According to Mary Duh, a Physician Assistant in Dermatology at Mayo Clinic Health System, 'Makeup can be infected with bacteria after only one use.' Every time we reapply that favorite lipstick or dip back into our foundation, we're potentially spreading bacteria all over our faces. By avoiding foundation and blush, the skin is allowed to return to its natural oil balance and hydration.
Health
Right-wing politics
fromwww.theguardian.com
1 month agoThere is no shame in being vain': the relentless rise of impossible male beauty standards
Male political and cultural figures increasingly perform militaristic authority through carefully curated facial presentation and appearance, while men's faces face unprecedented public scrutiny previously reserved for women.
Miscellaneous
fromSlate Magazine
1 month agoA Beloved Actor's Face Is Now Unrecognizable. But It's Us Who Should Be Looking in the Mirror.
Jim Carrey's altered appearance at the César Awards sparked conspiracy theories about clones and impersonators, reflecting modern celebrity culture's obsession with cosmetic procedures and internet misinformation.
Mental health
fromSilicon Canals
4 days agoPsychology says the reason aging people feel like they don't matter isn't about what they've lost - it's that society defines mattering as productivity and visibility, and the moment you step outside those narrow roles, your value becomes invisible even to people who love you - Silicon Canals
Retirement and aging can lead to feelings of invisibility and worthlessness due to society's narrow definitions of productivity.
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
3 days agoPsychology suggests the most attractive person in the room is almost never the one trying hardest to be - because effort in the direction of attractiveness is visible, and visibility of effort is the one thing that reliably cancels the effect it's trying to produce - Silicon Canals
Authenticity is more appealing than effortful perfection in social interactions.
Television
fromenglish.elpais.com
1 month agoIt's a trompe-l'il, it can't even turn you on': Have on-screen bodies become too unrealistic?
Despite increased sexual content in film and television, critics argue these portrayals lack genuine eroticism due to idealized bodies and choreographed encounters, potentially causing audience fatigue.
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
6 days agoPsychology says the worst part of people-pleasing isn't the exhaustion - it's realizing that no one actually knows you because you never gave them the real version - Silicon Canals
People-pleasing leads to exhaustion and prevents genuine intimacy, as it creates a façade that others connect with instead of the true self.
fromwww.nytimes.com
1 month agoVideo: Opinion | Confessions of a Former Body Positivity Influencer
What does loving yourself at any size mean now that weight loss is back in fashion and becoming more accessible than ever? Can you still be body positive while wanting to lose weight? The former body positivity influencer Gabriella Lascano argues that the movement has lost its way and taken an extreme turn in recent years. But she says there's a middle ground that still champions self-love and bodily autonomy while redefining them, too.
Public health
fromThe Nation
1 month ago"Going Natural" in the Age of Facial Optimization
I am familiar with this feeling. Breadcrumb trails of heat lead to pain that's called minor, pressure that's called surprising. Rooms like this-the salon where my scalp scalds as my curls burn away or the aesthetician's office where I lie as vulnerable as I might in a hospital bed-are drenched in anxiety's musk, scented with antibacterial spray. The women who leave me their warmth are like older sisters, evidence files, guinea pigs, role models, comrades, and competition.
Social media marketing
fromwww.mercurynews.com
2 months agoWhat to watch: Beautiful people keep blowing up in Beauty'
Like those, it scours our culture's incessant preoccupation with physical beauty, both the lusting for it and the lengths we will go to get and keep it. But The Beauty possess a mind of its own as it expounds on rich themes that Murphy's been interested in, mixing humor with black humor while he comments on sinfully glamorous lifestyles and the dark side of human nature and desire.
Television
fromwww.theguardian.com
1 month agoGoodbye, breast implants: why I went back to having a flat chest
For 22 years, I ran around with small bags of saline water on my chest a fact I shared with only a handful of close friends. I felt ashamed of having chosen artificial enhancement. I'm an outdoorsy mountain runner. At 56, I want to model ageing naturally, but having breast implants ran counter to that. Now they are gone, thanks to explant surgery implant removal without replacement.
Medicine
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