"I was shocked that this process was so hard. It's paper-driven. It's archaic. You're googling to-do lists that are not helpful. You're calling attorneys who might do a sliver of the work, and they cost thousands and thousands of dollars."
Estate planning is always important for parents of young children. In this situation, it's pretty clear that the OP needs to talk with an estate planning attorney now, not when he is in his 60s.