My wife is an amazing, caring, kind person. She is a deeply committed mother to our three children, as well as being an incredibly generous, pleasant and warm person. When people meet her, they like her. She has that effect. Of course, there is a 'but', otherwise, why would I be writing to you? The 'but' is that she is very untidy and this is causing us big problems.
When you reach a certain age, one of the things you notice at the turn of the year is the "stuff" you have accumulated. Old newspapers, documents and books jostle with the detritus of life, from pieces of dead coral from Barbados to an old label that never made it onto a bottle of Guinness. I have spent the last decade preaching to my adult children, telling them to stop buying things.