#marital-conflict

#marital-conflict

Your sign-off exposes the futility of your question-you can't uncreate a monster (I'm not calling your wife a monster; you did). This is a real be-careful-what-you-wish-for moment, but then I have to wonder what you were actually wishing for. By one measure, your foray into sex-club frequenting has been a smashing success. Your wife took to it like a horny fish to ... a bunch of other horny fish.

My wife and I have been at odds over something since we've been together. She gets especially horny during her period and wants sex. The idea of doing it while she has that going on sickens me. With the exceptions of when she was pregnant, every month it's been the same thing when that week rolls around: the demands, my refusals, and the accusations that I'm "not a real man." How can I get through to her that this is off the table for me once and for all? -Counting the Days Until Menopause

For the past couple of years, we've been living on the family farm in the Midwest for a few months a year, to make sure the pipes don't freeze, keep the vermin down, etc., before another family comes for the summer. My husband isn't crazy about this arrangement (he's a city kid, and the farm is in a rural, red area), but loves the family, and realizes we save hella money this way. For the record, we are both progressive politically, feminist, anti-racist, etc.