The article critiques the use of trite phrases, particularly 'it is what it is,' during moments of emotional distress. It argues that such sayings diminish the right to feel pain and make self-compassion difficult. The author emphasizes that individuals experiencing loss or hardship require space to express their emotions, seek sympathy, and take their time in healing, rather than hastily moving on. Acknowledging and allowing feelings of hurt is crucial in the face of life's challenges.
Such an ostensible invitation to grown-up acceptance unfortunately robs the sufferer of his or her right to suffer. It’s an attitude that makes self-compassion impossible.
We often need to mourn something, a loss, make claims for sympathy and help, and most certainly, we should not feel any kind of urgency to 'move on'.
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