#approval-seeking tag

There's a particular stillness that arrives in your 40s when you realize that the people who were supposed to approve of your choices never actually had a vote, and most of the exhaustion of the previous decade was the cost of campaigning in an election that didn't exist. - Silicon Canals

Realization in midlife reveals that the pursuit of approval was often imaginary, leading to self-acceptance and a shift in identity.

Psychology

fromSilicon Canals

2 weeks ago

I'm in my 30s and the thing I understand now that I couldn't at 22 is that the people I was most desperate to impress were the ones least capable of seeing me clearly. The approval I chased hardest was always from people who didn't have the emotional equipment to give it, and recognizing that changed everything. - Silicon Canals

Chasing approval often stems from childhood patterns and can lead to seeking validation from emotionally unavailable individuals.

Mental health

fromPsychology Today

2 months ago

How Would Your Life Change if You Didn't Seek Approval?

Living for others' approval prevents authentic living; confronting fear and stepping outside comfort zones enables reclaiming personal choices and wellbeing.

Mental health

fromSilicon Canals

2 months ago

If you rarely received affection growing up, psychology says you likely developed these 8 personality traits - Silicon Canals

Emotional neglect in childhood commonly produces enduring traits like chronic perfectionism, approval-seeking, emotional shut-down, people-pleasing, low self-worth, and fear of intimacy.

Mental health

fromSilicon Canals

3 months ago

If these 7 scenarios trigger you more than they should, you likely had a parent who loved you conditionally - Silicon Canals

Childhood conditional love makes adults equate criticism and disappointment with personal worth, causing chronic approval-seeking, anxiety, and disproportionate reactions to everyday feedback.

#perfectionism

fromPsychology Today

3 months ago