Developing a crush on a co-worker can be distracting and inappropriate, especially when both individuals are married. It's important to maintain professionalism in the workplace. Keeping emotional distance can prevent complications in a career.
By realizing that the person you're crushing on is in your head, they're a fantasy. The picture in your head of them is pure fantasy, and the reality is multiple ruined lives.
After four years of camaraderie at work and outside, our relationship has deteriorated. I've noticed he puts in minimal effort, yet reaps significant financial rewards.